What do you notice about your child’s play? Recently, I’ve been thinking about how they always push themselves to learn that little bit extra. Have you noticed this? Or maybe your child doesn’t do that. Maybe your child still plays with the toys they were playing with when they were 3 months old, in the…
I feel guilty for letting my child play alone
Dear Maxine, Thank you for your post on finding playing with your children tedious, it really resonated with me. Do you have any advice on how to overcome the intense feelings of guilt I have when my child is playing on her own? It’s worst when I start doing something else. I feel most guilty…
“Playing with my children feels tedious sometimes”
Hi Maxine, I came across you Instagram and blog recently and I just wanted to let you know how much I love the content. So much of it aligns with how I want to parent my children. Do you have any plans to do any posts around ‘mum guilt’ of finding playing with your children…
Accepting feelings
When I wrote ‘8 of our children’s key psychological needs‘, I knew I’d eventually have to write the post about accepting feelings. If I’m honest, at the moment, I would say that this is the key psychological need your child has. I’ve put it off and I’m curious about why. Maybe because I know how…
Space: a key psychological need
What comes to mind when you read ‘space: a key psychological need’? Do you think of physical space – enough room to move? Or do you think of metaphorical space? Freedom to move? To think? To feel? Physical space What kind of space makes you feel safe? Do you like things to be ordered or…
How did I get here?
I used to be a big fan of Super Nanny. When I got a job as a nanny myself, I believed I was ready. I was armed with her arsenal of behavioural techniques. This made me quick to tell children off. I used the naughty step or ignored them if they weren’t doing what I…
My baby/toddler keeps hitting me – what can I do?!
Recently, I’ve been talking to parents about their baby or toddler hitting and how on Earth we get them to stop. “My baby is a great learner! Look at all the things they can do today that they couldn’t even do yesterday! Why can they not learn that I don’t like to be hit?! Every…
Power, choice and consent
***Possible trigger warning: discussion of power, choice and consent in childhood and adulthood, no explicit references*** Have you ever done something and thought ‘why on Earth did I do that?!’. Maybe you said something that you really wish you hadn’t. Maybe you did something that people might label as ‘mean’. I wonder how powerful you…
The power of connection
The more I write, the more I realise that everything I’m writing about comes back to the power of connection. To noticing our children and acknowledging their experiences, before we make judgments about their behaviour. Because usually, the judgments disappear when we do this. What does connection feel like? Think of a time when you…
Understanding boundaries
What are your thoughts about understanding boundaries? What do you think a boundary is? Often, people I work with think they are about strict rules and adhering to them. What if we reframe ‘boundaries’ to be about something else? Boundaries are about knowing about your own needs and meeting them. And being understanding and respectful…